Does America need a time-out, Article on Rudeness Options

[Robin G]

But I think if our best answer to rudeness is self-righteousness, we're missing something.

Wow, that says it all................................ I think that yes rudeness is on the rise, but our reaction to it is on the rise as well. Being the one to point out someones lack of common sense is a bad one for me. I wish people would just use the little brain they were born with. I sometimes have to stop myself.............. And think, hmmmmmmmm ignorance is bliss (for them anyway)

Time out? Yes, but until people bring accountability back into their life's even a time out wont help if all we are gonna do is blame someone else for our ill's.

BobH, Hope your Mom is doing better, I often think how nursing homes are gonna look in 30 years. Not that nursing homes don't have enough issue, but think about it, all these people my age are gonna be entering nursing homes with body piercings, tattooooo's galore ( that rose that once graced their boob now sits upon their belly, ewwwwww). And lets not even get into the extra curricular drugs activites, etc.................... Nursing homes are wild places, but can you just imagine how they are gonna look a few years from now? LOL..................

[Roy in TO]

Nursing homes are wild places, but can you just imagine how they are gonna look a few years from now? LOL..................

We discussed that on Halloween while watching the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Wondering what the young staff would think of all us (soon to be) old timers dancing the "Time Warp" again.

[james kent]

Rage..1. Violent anger 2. speak, act with fury 3. proceed without check

Just hope thae with all this 'RAGE' in the world today that there will be young people around who care enough to work in these places to be able to take care of us.
My mother is 99 and in a nursing home getting the help she needs. When we visit I also try to include the other senior lady who shares the room. When her family is there, they just stare/glare at us and/or don't even let on that we are there. Makes things a little uncomfortable at times and hard to have a nice visit.

OH! Did I mention road rage?

[Bill MacDermod]

All kinds of rage out there, look at Ft Hood, and this guy was a military psychiatrist, the next day we had a multiple shooting in Orlando, the country is going nuts. A lot of these folks were brought up in an era where they had everything and they can't stand any kind of adversity or inconvenience in their lives

[Vivian]

Thanks, Donna, for posting the link to the article, and to all the members for their very thoughtful comments.

[Anne Badgley]

Camping is a great "time-out". It makes people happy and nice.

Hmmm! That explains why there seems to be more neighborliness in campgrounds than in city neighborhoods! People are in control of their lives and doing what they enjoy!

Perception is part of the problem. It has been said that we are more likely to become irritated with behavior when we attribute a selfish motive. I've seen this suggestion: when a driver is speeding and cutting thru traffic, would you be as irritated if you found out his wife was in labor in the back seat? Imagine that the next bad driver you encounter is rushing to the bedside of his dying mother. It does change irritation to sympathy to assume a "good" motive.

What often helped me to restrain my middle finger when I was driving in San Diego traffic was to imagine that the person in that car was the next face I saw in my volunteer work. How could I convince them that I want to help them out of the kindness of my heart when I had just cursed them out that morning on the road? It helped me to maintain my own sense of accountability for my reactions.

[Raya L.]

There sure seem to be a lot of people rushing to the hospital these days

Seriously though, I know what you mean, Anne. I try to think nice thoughts like that, and it does help.... most of the time....

Raya