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Old 06-13-2009, 09:55 PM   #29
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Amanda,

You won't convince someone who's unwilling to be convinced. Trailers are a lot of fun if you expect them to be fun, but can be a lot of work if you don't know what to expect.

My advice would be just to tell him you want to get one, and you want him to enjoy it. But if he doesn't enjoy it, that's ok 'cause you'll take the kids out in it without bothering him with it, because YOU enjoy it. And then do it if he doesn't want to. My guess is that he'll actually enjoy it despite his reservations.

It's a fallacy that trailering saves money over traveling by staying in hotels and restaurants, but there are some advantages... you don't have to carry luggage in and out every day or pack the car, you're always sleeping in your own sheets in your own bed, and you know your "facilities" are always clean. You don't have to deal with surly clerks or leave tips.

The bottom line is that if you're willing to take on the work of pulling a trailer by yourself to get to the fun stuff with it, then he may be willing to buy into the same plan.

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Old 06-13-2009, 10:42 PM   #30
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Very good point.
He likes camping, and likes camping in a camper a lot more than tenting, although he is not a
complainer and would do either without the grumbling.
After talking with him a bit about this over the last week, it's really just about spending the money, not the actual ownership of a trailer or the care and maintance of it that he's hesitant about.
He's not a risk taker. He hates to spend money. I'm frugal too, but I'm not a wife that ever goes out and blows money on things like clothing and purses-- I'm thrifty too and I never spend money on myself. I think that is why I am so stuck on this. To be frank, I feel like I bust my arse at home with the kids, I'm a good wife, I don't ask for much, and I want this trailer for US. Not just for me.

So anyway. Yeah. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest. Sorry to use this message board as my own personal therapy session.
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Old 06-13-2009, 10:53 PM   #31
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May I suggest that you partake in a little retail therapy?

Regarding financial risk, there is very little depreciation on a used trailer unless you abuse it, these things tend to appreciate after a while. Although not quite as fast as the current cost of a new one. Many of the older ones sell for more used than what they cost new. (not comparing the dollars comparative value over the years)

I disagree with Roger saying the cost is a fallacy. We've taken many trips with our trailer that we could not have afforded to take if we had to rely on hotels/motels.
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Old 06-13-2009, 11:30 PM   #32
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You know Amanda, I suggested the financial reason earlier, but I forgot the additional money that goes with fixing it up and making the trailer yours. So when you actually get to buy one, remember that there will be additional costs. I believe that we spent something like another one thousand on each of our two trailers, fixing them up.
So, depending on the trailer you choose, keep that in mind. If you buy a fixer-upper, there will be additional money. Even if it is camping ready, there will be some costs.

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Old 06-14-2009, 01:34 AM   #33
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Very good point.
He likes camping, and likes camping in a camper a lot more than tenting, although he is not a
complainer and would do either without the grumbling.
After talking with him a bit about this over the last week, it's really just about spending the money, not the actual ownership of a trailer or the care and maintance of it that he's hesitant about.
He's not a risk taker. He hates to spend money. I'm frugal too, but I'm not a wife that ever goes out and blows money on things like clothing and purses-- I'm thrifty too and I never spend money on myself. I think that is why I am so stuck on this. To be frank, I feel like I bust my arse at home with the kids, I'm a good wife, I don't ask for much, and I want this trailer for US. Not just for me.

So anyway. Yeah. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest. Sorry to use this message board as my own personal therapy session.

Amanda, show him this post. He will understand. And though I don't have kids, I know you bust your rear to keep a home and kids growing. You deserve this, find a way to make it happen. It may take some time but it will be worth the wait. Robin
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Old 06-14-2009, 06:12 PM   #34
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amanda.....you say your husband is frugal. that he doesn't like to spend money. yet he golfs. this is not a family activity. camping is. and despite your "good relationtionship", that still means that he takes time out of your family weekend to go golfing without you and/or the kids. if he compromised and spent the $$$ for the trailer and you agreed that once your site was all set up and if he wanted, you'd be agreeable to him slipping away to golf for a few hours while you enjoyed the pool/playground or whatever, at the campground, i would bet that it wouldn't be very long before he stopped slipping away to golf and stayed around with you and the kids because he found it more fun!!
good luck! getting our trillium was the BEST purchase we have ever made.
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Old 06-14-2009, 07:10 PM   #35
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Hey Yeah, that's right and there's some awfully nice little golf courses around the country.

But if you get a trailer don't let him be a road warrior. Long trips with few stops will be boring for the kids even though the destination maybe wonderful. They'll only remember the long boring ride pulling "that" trailer every summer.
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Old 06-14-2009, 07:32 PM   #36
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If you'd like to read a fabulous fiberglass trailer story about a mother and her two children that made a wonderful trip... and terrific memories, read this one by JenPB:
9,611-mile maiden voyage, 1 woman, two kids, a tiny trailer and lots o' miles
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This is a useful discussion. thanks.

Once our old faithful Nissan bites the dust, I'll agitate that its replacement be a used tow ready minivan--just in case I can ever talk my DH into the idea of getting an egg. It's not that he's totally against it, it's just never in the foreseeable future.
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Old 06-15-2009, 12:31 AM   #38
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I have two suggestions, well, more actually but Ill try to be brief.
No. 1. Ask him to read this thread. He will get an idea of what these trailers mean to people and their families.
No. 2 Ask him what he is willing to put into his kids' educations. Traveling is an education in American history and geography, and promotes a knowledge of other people and places. Cross the border and you've got a whole other country to explore and learn.
No. 3 Okay, one more than I promised. We, too, were in your position. I was home with the kids, we both worried about money and we came up with enough for a pop-up. (We call them tent trailers this side of the border.) And when we got tired of the up and down of that, it was an old VW Westfalia. I feel like we're in with the rich folks now that we've got our Burro.
Our 24-year-old daughters will talk for hours about the camping memories.
You only go around in this life once, and we don't know what lies ahead to throw our plans out of kilter. If you can do it, do it now.
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Old 06-15-2009, 06:59 AM   #39
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And one last thought that hasn't been covered really well... you can still find a fiberglass trailer for not a lot of money... and if you find one that needs a little TLC and you take the time and effort to make it shine, it will actually appreciate rather than depreciate. Further, there's a ready market for these things, so it's not like your cash is tied up in some long-term investment. If you watch the "for sale" ads here, you'll see that they sell very quickly.

Perhaps that may be a key to the financial issues... and you can buy a pretty nice trailer and use it all summer for the price of a week at Disneyland with hotel and airfares...

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