Personally, I think it would be a great choice. We just completed a round trip from eastern AZ to San Diego (our first longer trip using the Pilot), so I can share some details of the towing experience.
We were pulling a 13' Scamp
loaded up for a week at the beach, including 4 bicycles, with 4 people in the Pilot. We experienced some 30 mph headwinds on the way out, and some long grades near home in the White Mountains and in the coastal ranges coming into So Cal. I'm not one to push a machine to its limits, so we cruised at about 55-62 mph on the flats (OD on, per the owner's manual) at 2000-2500 rpm. On grades, we ran at 45-50 mph (OD off, per the manual) at 3000-3500 rpm. We got 18 mpg on the round trip (compared to about 25-26 mpg highway not towing). It was a comfortable, stable tow with no drama. Though large, it has a fairly short wheelbase, so it's surprisingly maneuverable in parking lots and campground sites. Not so nimble as your CRV, of course, but better than the first-generation Sienna van we used to tow with. It is exactly the same width as the Scamp
, so we do not need mirror extensions.
Don't know if you are considering 2WD or 4WD and new or used, but here are some things about Pilots to know. In model years 2009-2011, Honda put the full towing package standard on all models. It includes the receiver hitch, 7-way wiring harness, trans cooler, and a brake controller port. The only extra you have to buy is the 7-way connector plug (don't know if that is the right name, but it goes from the wiring harness box to the bumper fascia and gives you a place to plug in). Even that is included on the Touring models. Beginning in 2012, only the 4WD models come with the full towing package standard. They also downgraded the towing limits. For 2009-2011, they are rated to tow 3500/350 (2WD) and 4500/450 (4WD). Starting in 2012, they are rated 2500/250 (2WD) and 3500/350 (4WD). We have a 2011 LX 2WD with about 43K miles to date (bought Honda-certified used at 19K a year ago).
As to reliability, the biggest issue I have heard about relates to the VCM (variable cylinder management) system, which shuts down 2 or 3 cylinders under light
throttle. There have been some complaints about engine problems related to the system, apparently enough that Honda has extended the power train warranty to 8/100 under certain conditions. Hard to say how widespread the problem is. Our VCM system works flawlessly and contributes to great highway mileage for so large a vehicle.