As I said before people do what works. Most try to tilt the odds in favor of success. I think the majority of the RV community does not use their vehicle just for towing so mpg and other factors for everyday use are a heavy influence on what they already have or purchase to tow with.
What I see is the real value in this discussion is not in "defending" our own positions but in sharing what does work and what did you do to tilt the odds in your favor if you pushed the limits. What model of CRV or Jetta is OK for what trailer? What kind of trailer brakes
, did sway bars help? How heavy was your trailer? How did you load it? Was it a problem in mountains or hills?
Motivation is generally going to boil down to a choice, of my individual available options which is the option that looks best to me. The conflict is all about attacking or defending that choice. A choice that generally has so many individual factors it can not be debated well on a forum as a general topic.
It is worth noting that no one participating is saying they don't care about safety of themselves or others, or calling people names. They would just make a different choice because..... It's in this because that the reader can learn information which may be of use.
So if I was buying a vehicle what are my options, if I already have a vehicle what are sources that can help me decide how well it will work. All followed by YMMV
I am not happy going over rated capacity mostly due to liability, and having first hand knowledge of how much a transmission rebuild costs. If however someone offers me a super sweet take it with you now deal on a 4000# trailer my wife's escape
is gonna get overloaded by 500# and I'm in for a slow drive home at off hours.
Risk is logically factored on 1). How bad is the outcome. 2). How likely is it to happen. 3). How much can I do to reduce 1 & 2.
#1 ranges from killing someone to vehicle damage to spoiled vacation. #2 is where most of the debate takes place (Europe vs US etc.) which has some value but #3 is where I think the real value of this thread lies.
I picked up my scamp
with no working running lights
at the rear, I ran the flashers which did work for the entire 30 mile drive home. My motivation? Get trailer home, I felt the increased possibility of causing an accident was mitigated by my use of flashers and the short exposure.
#1 did not change, but #3 reduced #2 to an acceptable limit for me. Which I think is what most of the people on the other side of this issue are saying. Acceptable limit is individual. I have heard no one advocate for the absence of a limit on acceptable risk or claiming that those limits don't apply to them because they are "too good" and thus immune to the laws of physics.
So I respect these other opinions. If my wife wanted to trade in the Ford Escape
and was looking for a CRV (again, we had one in the 90's) I would be bugging Norm. Before going to the dealership.