I asked my son, an automotive mechanic, about whether it was better to downshift or brake when towing. He said the short answer is which would I rather replace, worn out
brakes or a worn out transmission.
It would seem that if your trailer braking system is properly set up, that the wear on your vehicle's
brakes would be minimal. I have used my son's advice when towing my
Oxygen with my 2007 Santa Fe. So far my
brakes and transmission have held up.
Good luck.