Chris,
Much of making a trailer safe'r' to tow is conscious choice.
Our solution to 'weighty' tongues is not to do it.
We don't carry
propane 'tanks', a single
propane tank is adequate. We find propane available every where we travel, even the most far out places. In 13 years we've run out once.
On the rare occasions that we have carried a small
generator it was carried in the back of the Honda, over or forward of the rear
axle. (Actually if it's heavy we try to keep it over the
axle instead of near the rear door of the Honda.)
Another factor for us is that between us we've lost 100 pounds of weight in our years of travel, not much of a factor because we're closer to the Honda's front
axle.
As to weight distribution in the trailer, besides placing weighty items over or near the axle, we have little weight up high. All our canned goods are in a little pantry over the axle, similarly with pots and pans. Though we have more overhead cabinets than most, only fluff stuff is high.
We carry virtually no glass dishes, just plastic. Though we travel for long periods, we don't carry a lot of stuff, no screen rooms, no coolers, no....
We have under trailer storage, helping to keep weight low, for some of our tools, things we feel we need to carry but don't use often, like socket sets, extension cords, hardware.
Though none of these things are big things they all add a little margin to safer travel.
We do carry four outside chairs, they are all aluminum. They are
light and have the benefit of not rusting.
We don't need to be paranoid about things, just conscious. We can make good choices that move our set ups in the best direction.